In the modern world of instant messaging and apps like Snapchat, getting in touch with others is easier than ever. For all you single guys out there, this means another thing other than expanding your pool of potential hook-ups. While it might seem easy, reeling them in from the Internet is more about finesse and less about plastering the web with requests and pleas for attention.
Keep It Casual
The key thing to remember about talking with women online regardless of the platform is keeping it casual. If you feel like you are laying it on too thick with the emoticons and terms of endearment just dial it down a notch. Women are not looking for sappy, weepy, emotional guys. Conversely, being tough and gruff for the sake of being tough and gruff doesn’t work either.
Instead find a nice middle ground. Let a girl know that you are interested in her but don’t swamp her with messages and requests. Play it cool and let the relationship build organically. This way if she isn’t into you, you can walk away with some pride and move on to the next one.
Avoid Outrageous Claims
While making outrageous claims about your life, personality, or physiology might seem like a great idea to spark a conversation but you’re better off just sticking to honesty or honesty by omission. When it comes to your various bits and pieces, just be honest now because if you make it any farther and meet up she’s going to find out then anyways. Might as well just let it roll naturally instead of setting yourself up for an embarrassing failure.
Time the Pic Swap Right
Speaking of your various pieces, try to slow down with all the pics, okay? Girls don’t want to be bombarded with what you have to offer at all hours of the day so keep it low key and let the excitement build up. If she wants to swap pics feel free to show off in your birthday suit. Otherwise, keep it to yourself or try an alternate strategy.
This type of strategy includes teasing the girl with normal pics or playing a game in which you share on her terms. Don’t worry, letting her have a little fun now means that you’ll probably be having some fun of your own later—if you play your cards right and handle the pic swap appropriately.
Don’t be Afraid to Shop Around
Listen, not every girl is going to jump all over at the first chance. These things take time. If you feel like the girl just isn’t into you, don’t worry, there are plenty of fish out in the virtual sea, so to speak. Shop around a little and message a few girls at a time. This way you can keep your options open and operate in a more relaxed manner. The alternative of latching on to one girl gives you a prime opportunity to let your inner creeper show off, leading to little action and a lot of embarrassment.