When you are trying to get with a girl, you need to make sure you are advancing your relationship in the right direction. No woman wants a heartless guy, but at the same time, they will be hesitant about sleeping with a guy they consider to be a friend. This is because they want to be intimate and it is hard to be intimate with a guy they think of more like a brother than like a lover. Therefore, you need to discover if you have somehow slipped into the friend zone. A few things to watch out for is a willingness to talk about being interested in other guys, talking about your opinions on feelings and being concerned with how other people perceive her. These are all indicators you are being viewed as a friend more than someone she wants to have sex with.
Willingness to Talk about Other Guys
If she is talking with you about the kind of guys she is looking to sleep with or guys she is interested in, you are out of the running. She wants your opinion on how she can get with some other guy and no girl interested in a guy would ever talk about such matters. She values your opinion as a guy to see how she should approach the situation.
Talking about Your Opinions about Feelings
No woman looking to have sex with you is looking to talk about feelings of other men, she will just express her own to you. The only time you want to hear about feelings other than this is when you decide to be in a relationship and she wants to tell you how much she loves you or have a deeper bond. If she is talking about how she feels or asking you to give an opinion about her feelings or yours, it could spell disaster. At this point, it is all about the physical and mental attractions. Feelings only get in the way. She knows this and she will turn off her feelings if she is turned on by you. If she cannot turn this off, you have turned her off.
Worried about How People Perceive Her
Again, if she is talking about perceptions, she is not talking about getting busy. She wants to know how other people perceive her, because she wants to know whether she has a shot at other people you are around. If she is asking you whether you think she is hot, it is one thing. If she is asking whether you think people think she is hot, it is quite a different thing altogether. You want the conversations to be centered around the two of you. Any time she is not talking about the two of you, she is opening herself up to other possibilities and you are getting the mental boot. Make sure you avoid the friend zone by making sure you sidestep these landmines. When she asks about these things, just tell her how you feel about her and what you guys are doing to bring things back on track.