Let’s set one thing straight here: having phobias do not make you a wimp most of the time. Fear of death? Legit. A fear of falling off a giant cliff and mangling your body? Yeah that makes total sense. A fear of mice? You’ve lost that battle. Small fears like these do not make you a man. While it will totally suck for the first part, you’ve got to get over your fears. Neither you nor your woman want to have to save you every time a rodent scampers across the kitchen floor.
Identify Your Fear and Face It
Just like with NA, the first step is to admit that you’ve got a problem. The more that you deny it, the longer it’s going to take to get over it. So do yourself a favor and just admit that you have got a wimpy fear. You don’t have to do this in front of other people, though. You can easily just say it in front of a mirror.
Figure out Why It Scares You
What about that rat or toad is so scary to you? Does it represent losing control of a situation? Or maybe it was drilled into you as a kid that these are bad things. Whatever the root of it is getting to the bottom of it and saying, “You, yes you. You are what I am afraid of and now I can face you head on.”
So Face It
Alright, now that you’ve got it, you’ve got to fight it. This is by far the hardest part. You’ve got to grab those scary bulls by their horns (figuratively, that is. If you’re actually afraid of bulls, just stand by their pen). It’s as simple as being near it at first, putting the item in the same room as you is a start. After you’ve become comfortable with that you can up the scare factor. Put it closer and closer to you until you’re finally able to hold it in your hands. This isn’t an overnight process. Most likely you’re going to have to spend weeks or even months getting the guts to get close to the this thing. So that means you’re going to have to.
Do it Again and Again
This isn’t quite as hard as the step before, but it can take the most will. Initially it’s very freaky to have to be near this thing that you’ve always been afraid of, but making yourself do it again and again can eventually break you down. Sticking with it will eventually get you over the hump.
It will all get better after you’re not afraid anymore. If you’re having second thoughts or thinking that it’s just too damn tough, then put up reminders around your house to keep you motivated. Little notes that say something like, “babes don’t like guys who are afraid of crickets” or a picture of the lady you might be trying to impress. Hell, even just affirmations like “I am not afraid of crickets” daily might help you out.