It’s a fact: first dates usually start out being painfully awkward. This is especially the case if it’s a first date with a woman you’ve met online. In most cases this awkwardness will fade as the date goes on and you become more comfortable in each other’s company. However, in other cases the awkwardness persists and the date becomes a disaster that you’re unable to avoid, there are several ways to tell if the first date is going to be a disaster. Learning to read these signs can be what saves you from a night of social agony.
There might be early hints as to a first date disaster hidden throughout your online conversations. For example, if she keeps making joking references to the fact that you might turn around and leave after you see her in person for the first time, that’s a red flag. We’re not saying this is an indication that she’s unattractive. We’re saying it’s a very good indication that she thinks she’s unattractive. Many women have low self-esteem, so this is a difficult call. She might be cute but thinks she’s ugly or she might be ugly and know it. Either way, it’s something to be aware of.
Other hints you might find include excessive dialogue on her behalf regarding any or all of her exes. If a majority of your conversations center around the douchebags she’s dated in the past, there’s a very good possibility that she’s going to keep up that conversational trend in person. There is no awkwardness that is as far reaching during a first date than that which stems from lamenting past relationships.
She Wants You to Meet Her Family and Friends Right Away
There’s a certain risk factor when it comes to meeting women online in that you’re not entirely sure if there’s an element of crazy involved until you meet them in person. A very good indication that your first date will be a disaster is an insistence that you spend your very first face to face time together meeting members of her family and friends. Friends can be forgivable; if she’s uncertain about the wisdom of meeting a guy she met online in person, she might ask a friend to tag along for the sake of security. If your date includes a group of her friends, it might be time to reconsider. The same goes for family. There’s a time and place to meet each other’s extended social circle, and the first date is not it.
She Hits the Drinks Hard
It’s normal to have a drink or two to take the edge off during a first date. It’s not normal to start slamming back shots in quick succession. If she’s boozing hard and you’ve barely even sat down, chances are you’re heading for a messy, drunken disaster of a date.
If some of the first words out of her mouth are to the effect that you don’t look like she thought you would or that you don’t measure up to your pictures, it might be time to find an excuse to bail. Or you can match her insult for insult and criticize her in the same way.