Online dating can be brutal, sometimes as brutal as looking for a job in a bad economy. And that is exactly the kind of frame of mind you need to have when you review your online profile, which you should be doing on a regular basis. If you took the time to put your profile together carefully in the first place, you shouldn’t find any problems on your next look-over. However we present three things you probably still have on there that you really need to trash.
Ditch References to Your Ex
So you already know it’s not classy to trash an ex on your profile. Not to mention it tends to scare women off. Did you also know this is true even if the mention is complimentary or totally neutral? Here’s why. It’s not because potential hook-ups go into spasms of jealousy when they read that on your profile. It goes back to what we said about searching for a job. When a woman reads your profile, it’s with the mindset of an employer. She has options, lots of options, because as you already know, men outnumber women in online dating. Treat your profile like a resume by providing enough information about yourself to show you can do the job and well. Don’t put anything on there that gives her a reason to add you to the “do not call for an interview” pile. Mentioning an ex is unnecessary and stupid. She already knows you have a past. The problem is it raises additional questions in her mind about you, which your profile doesn’t answer. It’s simply easier for her to click past your profile to the guy below you who knew to keep things light.
Toss Those Photos of Yourself and Your Female Friends
We know why you included those photos of yourself with your arm around your female friend. You wanted to show that you’re safe to know, and a cool guy who women actually like well enough to be friends with. But the same point above goes here. Your profile is not the place to show off photos of other women, even if it’s totally platonic, especially if all your photos are with female friends. A photo of yourself with a mixed crowd of friends, both guys and women, does the trick equally well (and doesn’t look like the obvious ploy it is).
Don’t List Your Physical Preferences
We all have them. Whether it’s for blondes, big tits, small tits, etcetera, etcetera, there’s nothing wrong with that. For the most part, you’re probably open to dating women with other hair colors (probably). However, you’d be surprised as to the amount of scrutiny a woman will give your profile if she’s interested in you. If your profile reads “I have a weakness for blondes” or “I tend to be attracted to curvy women,” she will move on if this isn’t her. This will happen even if you clearly label your observations as preferences instead of requirements. If you want to screen who responds to your profile, a better approach that wouldn’t scare off a woman you’d actually be open to dating, would be to list physical types you are definitely not interested in. Just list them nicely and don’t be a douche about it.