It might seem like a really wimpy thing to say, but when a girl calls you after a date, you should answer it. In our society there’s this weird stigma about how many days should pass before one person calls and one person picks up. Get over that, because you may end up losing a woman you really like just because you didn’t click answer. Beyond that, there are some things you’re going to need to get over to accomplish this, so get over what you know about phones and dating.
You’ll Push Her Away
It sounds so obvious, but seriously. You’re not playing a macho guy who has so much going on that he can’t keep up with the calls he receives. Missing one or two is fine, but you’ve got to call her back or text her to let her know that you are aware. Letting her think that she doesn’t exist to you is almost a guarantee that you’re never going out with her again. Women stress over this stuff for days, so even if it’s hard for you to keep track of or reply, you’ve got to do it even just to be a good guy.
Get Over Your Fears
A lot of the time guys are simply too afraid to answer the phones. For whatever reason they make us nervous, maybe it’s going to be her delivering the news that you’re a nice guy and all but she is cool not going out again. Or even worse, she might be a total Mrs. Hyde to the Dr. Jekyll you went out with earlier. She might be super clingy and want to go on all of the dates just to get married, but then she could turn around and yell at you for going so long without calling her. The thing is, these are all a bunch of “ifs.” They aren’t rational and they’re all in your head, not hers. Most likely she’s calling to see if you want to go out again, which means…
You’ll Have to Let Her Know Sometime
Even if you don’t want to go out with her again, you can’t be a total douche and ignore her as a way to say no. You’re going to hurt the poor girl and set up a bad reputation for yourself. As big as the world seems, there is always the cousin of a friend that your aunt once babysat who would normally go out with you but has since found that you’re one of those guys who doesn’t call back. Think of your future self, man!
On the other hand, if you did have an awesome time together than why avoid her? If she calls the next day, answer it. If she doesn’t call you, then great! There are no rules to this sort of thing out, all you have to do is initiate contact so that the both of you can have a good time again. It doesn’t matter who calls who, so long as it happens.