Getting a Black Book
It’s always a good idea to keep track of your hookups. We’re not saying that you actually have to have a physical black book – who the heck wants to keep up with that? – but we are saying that it’s just smart to keep track of who you have slept with, especially when it comes to judging whether or not to leave some good kinky dating site reviews.
Your black book is your history.
This isn’t just notes about the girls you’ve slept with. Remember, this is something you should just have because you might not remember the username of that chick you banged the other day.
Keeping track of this sort of thing will make it easy for you to remember what was good about your hookup, and what wasn’t. You’ll be able to keep track of those specific details in a much easier, more organized way the more you start jotting these things down.
Legit kinky dating sites will help you store your messages that you might have exchanged with these women, but it’s really up to you to make notes about how good they were in the bedroom…or how bad they were, depending.
It doesn’t matter if it’s leather or digital.
Some of us are actually pretty into the aesthetic of a leather book, but others really like the organization that comes with digital records.
Whatever you decide, just decide on something, and stick to it. We keep a lot of information in our little black books, because there’s a lot of stuff going on when it comes to organizing a hookup.
The information you keep can obviously vary, but we highly suggest at least keeping some of these things:
Women we’ve slept with (with their information from the site)
How the date went
Any notes about their kinks if we liked them enough to remember
This kind of information will prove invaluable.
The last thing you want to do is end up hooking up again with a woman that you just didn’t like. Your black book can keep this from happening again, so don’t pass up the chance to really keep the right records and data on these girls that you’re seeing.
Remember, your black book doesn’t just have to extend to women. It can make notes on the websites that you’re using, too, because while we go out of our way to make sure you find a real kinky dating site, everyone’s experience will vary.
Your black book is also your playbook.
When you’re taking notes on the kinky dating sites that you’ve been using, you should always make sure you write down what worked there, and what didn’t. Some of those things might include:
How many e-mails did you have to send?
How many women responded?
How fast was the process?
How many times did you get laid?
Were they kinky enough for you?
It’s also important to take note of any kinky dating site scams that you might have seen on these websites. If you felt unsafe, then you are obviously not going to be as inclined to return to this particular site in the future.
Rank your ladies accordingly.
It’s important that within your black book, you have a good system of rating how good these women were in the sack. We’re not telling you to reduce these ladies to numbers, because they’re definitely more than that!
We’re just telling you to know what you like, and to make sure you’re calling back the right ladies. Otherwise, you’re going to be stuck with women that you’re not as into until you find the girl of your dreams again.
Know when to move on.
Your black book will help you with this. If you’ve tried to make a hookup work with the same girl a couple of times, your record will be able to show you that it’s really just not the kind of hookup that you want to continue doing.
By having this kind of record keeping, you’re really insuring that the time you spend on dating websites is used properly. You won’t be wasting your time, and you’ll be a lot happier whenever you find a woman that really clicks with you and your kinks.
Don’t get discouraged.
You’ll find the perfect hookup, trust us.