How to Email
It doesn’t matter if you’re on a free kinky dating site or one that you’re spending your hard-earned cash on: to get the best of it, you’re going to have to send out the right kinds of e-mails.
These girls are fought over. It’s a fact of dating sites in general, so you’re going to have to be prepared for competition. The good news is that by knowing the kinds of e-mails to write to them, you’re ahead of the pack by far.
Pay attention to her interests.
There are a lot of different ways to send a kinky lady an e-mail, but first and foremost, you should always remember that it doesn’t need to start off being sexual. It gets pretty old to logon and receive messages about how they’re a slave ready to kiss your feet, so don’t be the guy that starts off a message in Dominate mode.
One of the best ways to e-mail any woman on any kind of real kinky dating site is to mention some aspect of her appearance (ONLY her eyes, hair, or smile at first) and to pick up an interest from her profile to talk about. For example:
Email 1: “Hi, Deanna. What caught my attention was your gorgeous smile, but the more I read into your profile, the more I knew I just had to e-mail you. I’m really into bondage, too, but I don’t think I’m quite as experienced as you. I was wondering if you had any tips for someone starting out?”
Email 2: “Hi, Cora. Your gorgeous red hair really made me give you a second glance… but then I started reading about what you’re into and I just ended up on your profile for a solid hour. Your interest in the finer sides of BDSM really had me interested because I’m getting back into the scene after quite a few years. Know any good clubs in the area?”
These e-mails are the sort of thing that any woman would love to see in her inbox because they’re complimentary, and show that you’ve actually taken the time to read their profiles and get to know them. They also include what we like to call a “hook,” which is something for them to respond to.
Never send an e-mail without giving a woman something to reply to.
This might seem like common sense, but even on legit kinky dating sites, it’s easy to overlook this key part of sending e-mails. You can send out a million e-mails commenting on things about women, but it’s a rare day that they will respond unless you pose a question in your e-mail that is easy for them to answer.
Many men forget this, and this is why they simply never get any replies back. After all of our time spent doing kinky dating site reviews, we’ve discovered this trick and know that it really does work to get a conversation started.
Pay attention to your own inbox, too.
It’s important that you keep an eye on your own inbox very carefully whenever you’re using a kinky dating site. It isn’t just to make sure that you respond promptly to any e-mails you receive; it’s to make sure that you aren’t getting any scam or spam e-mails.
If you ever think an e-mail that you have received is a scam, you shouldn’t respond to it. Just delete it. Remember, there will always be other hookups, and the moment you feel suspicious, it’s best for you just to move on.
Make sure you keep your emails current.
By this, we mean that you shouldn’t immediately start talking about your own sexual history. It’s important to discuss this sort of thing at some point, but it’s definitely not first e-mail material.
Rather than talk about your sexual history, you should talk about the interests that are right in front of you both in her profile and in yours. This is the sort of thing she’s interested in right off the bat, and the kind of thing that is going to get her to hook up with you faster than anything else.
By staying current, you’re keeping HER interested.
You’re not going to hook up with a woman by talking about what’s haunted you in the past. Keep that in mind, move forward, and have fun in your e-mails.
Double-check to see if she’s in any reviews.
It might seem a little silly, but you never know when the lady you’re interested in might show up in some of the site’s reviews. It’s not terribly common, but it’s always good to do a quick search on a review page to see if anyone else has hooked up with the same lady that you’re interested in.
Remember, the reviews are primarily for the website itself, but you’re still going to get guys dropping usernames here and there. It might be a good way to find out that the chick you want to hook up with is legit or not… or if she’s even worth your time at all!