The Next Day
We get that you just want a hookup and not a relationship, but if you’re going to spend the night with the girl, the least you can do the next morning is be a nice guy!
A lot of guys overlook the next day.
That’s fine. That’s why we’re here to give you some pointers that will keep you popular on the top kinky dating sites. If your kinky night goes pretty late, however, there’s a good chance that you’re going to end up waking up next to the girl that you met up with, so a little bit of friendliness goes a long way.
This is especially just fine and dandy if you enjoyed the night prior. Hopefully, you had a great time, and so did she. If you didn’t, then there’s a good chance you didn’t pass out in bed next to her after you got laid, so we’re going to assume for the moment that a good time was had by all.
Chat about your experiences.
Generally, we suggest that you take the time to vegetate on the night before you talk to her about it, but if she’s still there, then it’s a good chance to ask her for some tips and tricks.
Don’t expect a play-by-play of what you did great and what you sucked at. She’s not going to give it to you, and who wants to hear that anyway?
The most important thing is to talk to her about what you could include in a scene next time, and what worked and what didn’t. If something just didn’t fly, it’s best to hear it from her before you hookup with her again or with someone else that you might like sleeping with even more.
The right feedback can really help you gain experience.
She might be just as interested in hearing about how she did, too, so take the opportunity to trade back and forth about the evening.
Do you still need to work on your whipping techniques? Did she ever come close to using the safe word because of something you did? It’s important to know these things so you become an even more experienced kinkster at the end of the day.
While a lot of your conversation can be about how the night went, you can also talk about chatting it up again online. She might know some of the best kinky dating sites that you’ve never even heard of, so trade information and see what the two of you can learn from one another.
Don’t make it last too long.
She’s got things to do, people to see, and so you do. Also, remember, last night wasn’t a date. It was a hookup, and the more you cling to her presence, the weirder you’re going to make it.
Even if she’s got some time to kill, there’s no need to drag out the morning. Even if you really liked her, you should probably only buy her a cup of coffee and keep it to that. Otherwise, trade numbers, be on your way, and think about ways to make your next kinky night out even more exciting with the next girl you meet on a free kinky dating site.
Sometimes, the night prior won’t be good.
If that’s the case, then you’re going to have to be pretty delicate the morning after. We’re not saying that you should let her get away with murder, so to speak. It’s important that she knows that the night was bad, and the reasons behind it – but don’t be a jerk nonetheless.
It also might not have been entirely her fault. There might have been miscommunications between the two of you, and it’s good to voice that sort of thing and get it out of the way. It will make both of you much more likely to have a fun, successful hookup in the future without any of these kinds of issues.
Decide if you want to contact her again.
It doesn’t matter if it went good or if it went bad. It’s all up to you to decide if you want to ever contact this girl again.
You might want to keep it extremely casual, and that’s fine. With that in mind, send her an e-mail when you get home, thank her for the evening, and leave it at that. If you didn’t like her at all, then you shouldn’t bother with the e-mail. That will be a clue enough that the evening just didn’t do it for you, and you can both move on from there.
It’s all about sex, not dating.
We know you’re too busy for dating, and that’s why you’re into hookups. We’re the same way, and that’s why we think it’s important for you to establish that mindset before you go into any sort of hookup situation.
The woman you’re hooking up with will know that, too, so don’t feel guilty about leaving her hanging. It’s all part of the game, and she’s a player, too.