Before Dating Prepping
You’ve got the date setup. You’ve chatted about all the kinks you want to play around with, and you’ve got some amazing scenes planned. Kinky dating sites have really come through for you, and you’re getting laid tonight for sure!
The first stage of prepping starts with you.
The last thing you want to do is show up to your hookup looking like a slob. Really take the time to shower away the day’s work, and shave up nicely…unless the two of you are into a body hair kink, wherein you should ignore that and make sure you’re looking EXTRA hairy that particular day.
It all depends on what the two of you are going to do, of course, but you really want to make sure that you’re well-groomed all the same. No woman is going to like a guy that shows up for a date looking like trash.
There are other parts of your personal grooming, though, that might be imperative to consider depending on what kinds of play the two of you are going to be engaging in.
If you’re interested in pegging, for example, take the time to make sure you’ve had a bowel movement. It might sound weird seeing it in text like this, but seriously – the last thing you want to do is ruin an evening because you’ve forgotten that integral part of your play!
Don’t bring absolutely everything to your meeting.
By ‘everything’, we’re talking about all your credit cards and cash that you’ve got on hand. At this point, we’d like to believe that you’re safe against kinky dating site scams, but there’s always something that could go wrong. It’s just safer not to have every single form of money you’ve got on your person when you meet up with your date.
It’s also important that you keep your ID on your person at all times, and easily accessible to only you.
It’s not uncommon for people to try and steal that sort of thing right out of your wallet, so keep it in a pocket where you can check on it easily enough.
This might sound like a bit of paranoid advice, but it’s saved us on dates gone bad several times before.
Make sure you have everything packed.
While you need to make sure you’re not bringing all of your money with you, bringing all of the necessary items for a kinky, sexy night is something else entirely. During the extent of completing all of our kinky dating site reviews, we have to say that our nights went much better with the essentials in tow… as well as a few things we never thought we’d end up using.
“Essentials” for the evening include lots and lots of lube, condoms, and any toys that the two of you have already discussed. Obviously, if the two of you start having ideas that you didn’t expect, then it’s always good to have a few extras on hand.
It’s okay to have a party chest.
Many of the most hardcore kinksters out there literally have a “party chest” of their favorite toys, and there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, your hookup might think it’s pretty hot, and it can say a lot about your experience as well.
That being said – don’t bring anything along that you simply don’t know how to use. At the end of your night, you want to be known as the guy that brought stuff she never thought she’d enjoy, not the guy that messed it up because he wanted to try out a new kind of flogging that he’d never given a shot before.
Don’t be caught empty handed.
It’s also better to bring too much than nothing at all. Even if you might get teased a bit for being over-ambitious, there’s no point in not bringing enough lube to slick up a small country. Better that than nothing at all, after all!
Being prepared is, at the end of the day, the most important thing. While you might look nice and smell nice and think you have all your ducks in a row, forgetting those condoms will just make you look sloppy, and like someone she is going to want to avoid hooking up with again in the future.
The more you have your bases covered, the better.
Even if you don’t want to make hookups with this one girl a regular thing, the better your rep, the more likely you’re going to get more hookups in the future. Women talk, and they’re going to post things about you.
That’s inevitable, so you might as well make sure there’s nothing bad they can say about you in your preparation.
Even the most experienced kinksters can have a bad night, though, so just relax and know that you’re well-prepared. It’ll take a load of stress off of your back, and that’s the key to starting off your kinky evening off right.